Here’s some advice from Seth Godin. His first and primary point: If you want to lose an argument, start one. Discussions may lead somewhere, but arguments hardly ever change anyone. Arguing is a zero sum game.
I hate arguing, but I do it. Mentally I’m checking my watch wondering, “How do I get out of this?” But once in the door we’re both stuck.
Seth’s list is easily recognizable. I’ve had each of his “recommendations” used on me, and I’ve probably used them all myself.
So what’s better than arguing? I love his concluding words:
Earn a reputation. Have a conversation. Ask questions. Describe possible outcomes of a point of view. Make connections. Give the other person the benefit of the doubt. Align objectives then describe a better outcome. Show up. Smile.
If we all followed this advice, we’d probably learn how to discover truth together. Imagine that. Read the rest here.
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